It has been such a good weekend and I have really had a positive outlook this weekend! Like I've said before, my feelings go through phases, they come and go without any real pattern. Lately I've been having a really really tough time. But today while DH was working, I spent most the day hangin with the kids. Or rather, I made myself accessible in the living room rather than hiding out in my bedroom, and they took advantage of that and cuddled with me on the couch all day watching Lifetime movie… Continue

My BF and i have been dating for 9months now and his daughter is 14months old now. He has 50/50 custody of her and she knows who i am b/c we hang out and have been on trips with her... Well the funniest thing happen last night. Me and my BF showed up at a surprise party for his brother in law and when we walked in everyone was telling us hi. Well his daughter was already at the bday party when we showed up b/c his sister watches her during the day. Well we walked in the door and she saw my bf an… Continue

So I guess this should be the introduction to my life as a stepmom...where to begin? The beginning, obviously!

But first, a rundown of who we are. I am 26, work full-time as a graphic designer. I love kids and even worked as an au pair for a few years in Europe before coming back to South Africa in July 2007. BF is 38 but it never feels like there's even a slight age difference between us. He as 2 kids, SD is 10, turning 11 in Dec and SS turned 7 in July.

I met my BF in September 2007 through… Continue

I don't usually post, but I really needed to vent. The "Evil One" (BM) is really off the hook. My oldest SD doesn't come to our home anymore after terrorizing everyone in the house. DH gets both of his girls every other weekend. So, "Nightmare" (the oldest SD) didn't want to come last weekend because of Halloween. She stays at her aunts and spends time with DH there. My youngest SD is normal and loves to be with us. So oldest SD hates us and our home, now she hates the aunts house. BM thinks tha… Continue

Hi there! Does anyone have experience blending a family with extreme age differences? My two are 8 and 11. His three are 19, 17, and 14. We all live together all the time except my ex sees our children every other weekend. He is dealing with Completely different age stresses and situations than I am ! We do not ever do anything all 5 of us...except dinner every now and then. I am not a SM to the older ones...I do not know how to get close to them. We have lived together 2 years now. I think that… Continue